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title: "Most 1:1s Are Just Surviving. Let's Change That. | Talk by Marian Kamenistak"
description: "The format is not the problem. The habits around it are."
url: "https://www.marian.coach/speaker/fix-your-1-1s/"
lang: "en"
image: "https://www.marian.coach/images/marian-kamenistak-og-image.jpg"
---

# Most 1:1s Are Just Surviving. Let's Change That.

The format is not the problem. The habits around it are.

For: Engineering Managers, Tech Leads, anyone running weekly 1:1sFormat: 70-min hands-on workshop

[Book this talk →](mailto:marian@marian.coach?subject=Speaking%20request%3A%20Most%201%3A1s%20Are%20Just%20Surviving.%20Let's%20Change%20That.)

![Marian Kamenistak leading a two-day engineering leadership workshop for a small group of managers, presenting at a screen.](https://www.marian.coach/_astro/talk-26.CMdq9dhg_Z1y6MrF.webp)

## Why do most 1:1s fail, and how do you fix them?

Status update, awkward silence, or the recurring slot you both quietly want cancelled. The format is not the problem, the habits around it are. We diagnose what is broken in the 1:1s you run now and rebuild those thirty minutes into the most useful block on your calendar.

You leave with the 1:1 Playbook, situation-specific scripts for the conversations you keep postponing, and a question set you can run in tomorrow's 1:1.

## Why this talk, not a generic version of it

The recurring slot both people secretly want cancelled: that's the 1:1 this talk starts from, not a new agenda template. It diagnoses what's broken in the ones the room already runs, the status update in disguise, the awkward silence, then rebuilds those thirty minutes around the habits underneath the format.

Hands-on, built for engineering managers and tech leads running weekly 1:1s that have gone stale. The close is the 1:1 Playbook, scripts for the conversations that keep getting postponed, plus a question set ready for tomorrow's 1:1, not the next one.

What the room walks out with:

[Get the 1:1 Playbook →](https://www.marian.coach/blog/one-on-ones/)

## Quick answers

Who is "Most 1:1s Are Just Surviving. Let's Change That." for?

Engineering Managers, Tech Leads, anyone running weekly 1:1s

What format is it delivered in?

70-min hands-on workshop

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